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Why should anyone else
be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
Some people talk a lot about the
kind of life they'd like to have. Other people do something
to make it happen. Which kind are you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on Yourself
 About
ten years ago, a friend of mine named Melissa made a decision
that changed her life. Her school counselor offered her the
chance to become an exchange student in Europe. She would be
living in Germany, France, and Denmark, learning all about each
country's customs, meeting new people, and picking up some of
each language.
No one in Melissa's family had ever traveled far out of the
state they lived in. Her parents were skeptical, and told her
that she should forget it-they didn't have any extra money to
help her with such foolishness. In fact, no one in Melissa's
working-class neighborhood had ever considered going to Europe.
They just hoped they'd have enough money to pay the rent each
month and buy groceries each week.
Melissa knew it would be easier to stay home, to keep working
part-time and going to school part-time. "After all,"
she thought, "who do I think I am? I really don't know
what to expect. I don't know any foreign languages. I'd probably
just make a fool of myself." If Melissa went to Europe
for a year, she wouldn't be able to work, and she'd be spending
the money she'd worked so hard to save. It would be her first
time ever away from her family and friends, too. What if she
got homesick? And the thing that scared her most was that when
she came back from her adventure, she'd be broke. She'd have
to live at home and rely on her parents until she could get
a job and save enough to move out.
Still,
she couldn't quite forget the idea. Why shouldn't it
be her? After going endlessly back and forth, she finally decided
to take the risk. She could always come back early if she hated
it. She called her school counselor, who was delighted when
Melissa said "Sign me up!"
The counselor was about the only one who seemed happy. Melissa's
family offered no support, emotionally or financially, and her
friends just laughed when she said she was going to Europe.
They finally realized she was serious when she closed out her
savings account and asked the counselor to drive her to the
airport. "We'll see you in a couple of weeks," her
dad laughed as she walked to the car.
 Lessons
Learned
The trip began poorly. The airline bumped Melissa's entire group,
and told them they'd have to wait until the next day to leave.
Although she had never flown before, Melissa decided if she
didn't leave that very day, she'd chicken out completely. She
went from one ticket counter to another until she found a connection,
spending 10 hours in the airport before leaving on her first-ever
flight. It took so long and she was so nervous that she began
to wonder if she should have listened to her parents and her
friends after all. When she arrived in Germany the next afternoon,
she was exhausted. She guessed that the weird sleep-deprived
feeling she was experiencing was what people called jet lag.
Oddly, it pleased her somehow to know first-hand what it was.
No one back home knew what jet lag felt like! She handed the
address of her new apartment to the taxi driver, and paid him
in Euros when he dropped her off. Then she slept for a long,
long time.
The next
day, Melissa began exploring her new neighborhood. She wasn't
nervous at all. She found her way to the nearest travel agency
and bought a train pass. Nearly everyone spoke English and seemed
helpful, and the trains made it easy to get around.
The next
week, she ventured further-to Switzerland. She went alone because
the other students in her group were apprehensive about traveling
outside the "base" country. Melissa wasn't exactly
radiating confidence herself, but she wanted to see as much
as she could during her time in Europe, and the only way to
do that was to summon up her courage and go. She loved learning
what was beyond the sheltered world she had left behind. She
found that all she really needed was common sense and a map.
From then on, when Friday came, Melissa was packing her bag
for another destination. She saw the ruins at Rome, the Eiffel
Tower, and even the great pyramids in Egypt. Sometimes she felt
like she must be dreaming-that she'd wake up from this new feeling
of independence, freedom, accomplishment and success. But she
was wide awake, and enjoying every minute.
Melissa's year of travel was a year of revelation for her. As
she studied different cultures and met so many new people, she
realized she had always had an adventurous spirit and a thirst
for knowledge. And if Melissa had decided to stay in the US,
she would never have met her future husband. She helped
him run his restaurant in Berlin-a new enterprise they enthusiastically
shared, and with great success. They stayed in Germany for another
year before they returned to the States. As it turned out, Melissa
was far from being broke!
So what's
the lesson here? People who don't take risks don't go far. People
who let others make their decisions for them are rarely happy.
And fear is what keeps 99% of people from leading fulfilled,
successful lives. You don't have to let that happen
to you. Figure out what you want, and then go for it!
What
You Need To Know
You should
be steering your own ship. While there will always be some factors
that are out of your hands, it makes little sense to worry about
what you can't change. Instead, worry about what you can
control - you and your actions and
your thinking.
Points
To Remember:
 Be receptive
to all possibilities. Most new ideas sounded crazy the first
time they were introduced.
Fear of failure
can be very powerful. It can cause you to stay in a rut, to
procrastinate, and to miss out on opportunities to change your
life. If you are dominated by fear, learn to be brave.
Realize that
risk-taking is a necessary part of success. Learning to negotiate
risks leads to more self-confidence and more triumphs along
the road to the life you would like to lead.
Always be on
the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most people believe it's about
finding inner peace, satisfaction and emotional balance, as
well as financial stability. You can't achieve those unless
you start thinking out of the box. You have to be willing to
take some risks. You must be willing to step out of your "comfort
zone." This applies to business as well as to your personal
life.
Some Of The Pillars
Of Success:
Plan your work,
and work your plan!
Make every
effort to be the best you can be at what you do. Don't compare
yourself to others. Set your own goals.
When you make
a commitment, stick to it!
Acknowledge
that disappointments are part of life. Instead of allowing setbacks
to keep you from moving ahead, overcome them and forge ahead.
This will make you stronger.
Remember that
every experience, whether good or bad, can be a learning experience.
It's all in what you take from it.
Live each day
as if it were your last; have no regrets.
Some
Final Words…..
 So
have you decided yet if you're a talker or a doer?
Do you wait for things to happen to you at the
whim of others, or do you make them happen? Are
you just thinking about how great your future could be if
only...? There is no better time than right now to stop
just thinking about making a change that will secure
your future success and time. Right now is the time to do
something about it. Starting a home based business is one
of the easiest first steps you can take to begin working on
your financial independence.
You may have heard people derisively say, "Oh, she's only
looking out for number one." But be honest. If you don't
look out for yourself first, who will? Are you ready to take
control of your own destiny-to look out for number one? I can
help you find the path to success, but you need to make the
decision to take the first step down that path. Your first step
will take you just a few minutes. Take the time to fill out
the form below to get started on your new path to success today.
Like my friend Melissa, you will discover a whole new way of
life that you never imagined-and a sense of independence, confidence
and accomplishment that is beyond your fondest dreams.
Sue DeBrule
1-800-606-0613
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